Okay … I’m kinda of thrilled about this post today! It’s a little different than what I normally share. It’s not a craft. It’s not a DIY. It’s not even a project AT ALL and it doesn’t contain any pictures of my boys (WHOA, I know, right?!?). Megan from The Walker Fireside Chats is here today with a refreshing post. It’s an honest, feel good post, and something that really hit home for me. It helps hit the ‘reset’ button.
I’ll let Megan get right to it …
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Well hello View from the Fridge readers! My name is Megan and I write The Walker Fireside Chats, a collection of stories designed to give my readers laughter and encouragement. While Katie is loving on her precious new baby, I am here to share three pearls of wisdom I live by. Hopefully, these words will bless you as much as they have blessed me.
“It’s OK Your Life is Not OK”
An interesting fact about me?
I am a perfectionist, and I bet a lot of you are too. I think the
popularity of Pinterest is a testament to just how many perfectionists
there are out there. Everyone wants to have the perfect home, the
perfect meal and the perfect family. Sadly, perfection is just not
possible in this world.
Despite knowing this in my head, my heart does
not always agree. There is nothing more discouraging and dangerous than
pursuing perfection, y’all. I know this because I almost ruined my
health pursuing it! I heard this statement from a counselor who told me
to stop trying to make my problems OK and just acknowledge they are not
I was just so stunned by her words. Just…stop
trying to be perfect? But…what do I do then??? It has taken me several
years and I’m still not perfect (gah, the cycle continues…), but her
statement empowered me to STOP trying to change my circumstances and
embrace life as it is now.
You will be surprised how much more you enjoy life by letting go of perfection.
“The Worst They Can Say is No”
My dad used to tell me this growing up when I lacked the courage to speak to someone about an important issue. His advice reminds me even though we might be afraid, fear is not the end of the world. The absolute worst outcome of this situation is the person will say “no”, and then I’m just right back where I started!
This advice gave me the courage to reapply for a job several months after my application had been rejected. The position came open again, so I thought, “well, the worst thing they could tell me is no…again!” So I submitted another application…and got the job!
“You Can’t Control Your Feelings, but You Can Control Your Reactions”
If you’ve ever met me or read my blog, you might think I’m a little…dramatic. I just have a lot of emotions I feel very strongly, y’all. But emotions can sometimes get you in trouble, especially if you allow those emotions to dictate your actions. I have learned that the hard way over the years.
My mom said this to me one time, and I found it very freeing. You see, there’s often a lot of guilt associated with strong emotions, because you know those emotions are often inappropriate. Not only does this statement acknowledge those feelings as legitimate just because you feel them, it also gives you a strategy to avoid the drama: don’t let those emotions control your reactions!
I won’t lie, this does not always happen, but controlling the drama happens much more often now!
Thank you for welcoming me to your lovely blog, Katie! And thank you, readers, for welcoming me into your homes for these last few minutes. I hope you come visit me soon!